If I Could Change This World Part 2

By Tracey Bivens

Here’s my second attempt at trying to provide your thoughts and your complaints and compliments about the steppin’ world in an effort to affect change. Today, I will focus on the men’s concerns and comments. Let’s be sure to process this information before we pass judgment.

5 Things Men Love:

1. Women who are dressed like a “lady” and not dressed like men wearing flats or gym shoes all the time.

2. Women who go ahead and buy a man bottled water or a drink even if they don’t ask for it.

3. Women who don’t try to “out dance” them on the floor as though they are in a contest.

4. Other men who give them positive “dap” or compliments.

5. Club owners who don’t discriminate and make everybody pay as opposed to “ladies get in for free until 10pm” specials.

10 Things Men Wish Would Change At Steppers Sets:

1. Women who are so assertive that they grab and pull on men for a dance without asking them if they even want to dance.

2. Women who sit in groups of three or more other women who give off the vibe that they are a bunch of women who “deserve” to be asked to dance only to turn down a dance and embarrass the guy.

3. Men who are offer to buy women a drink but the woman feels that ordering expensive “top shelf” liquor is common place.

4. When men walk women to their cars and they don’t even thank them for it.

5. Women who try to unleash a bunch of different footwork patterns that they’ve seen on the dance floor when they haven’t mastered their basic step yet.

6. Women who get “lit” or inebriated and you can’t lead them in the dance properly.

7. Women who sit around and appear to be angry at the world for no apparent reason so when they are asked to dance they don’t say “yes” or smile when they are asked for the dance and act as though they are doing the guy a favor when they do dance.

8. Other men who develop “guy crushes” on them and jock or follow them all night trying to feed off of their popularity.

9. Ego tripping heavy hitters who get a kick out of trying to teach a class when they don’t have their basics down pat i.e “Thank God I’m here to straighten yall out!”

10. Female steppers jumping into a man’s dance with a woman FORCING it to turn into a trio when that was not the obvious intent.